I recently discovered a study done by Warner Brothers (in aid of promoting a film of course (not for any scientific purpose)!) which concluded that it was not “the 7 year itch” that counted but “the 3 year glitch” when it comes to the survival of relationships.
The survey of 2,000 British couples showed that it was around the 3 year mark when stress levels were at their peak. 67% of those surveyed said that small irritations which are seemingly harmless and often endearing during the first flushes of love often expand into major irritations around 36 months. It seems the things we loved about our partner at first start to flip the other way after a few years together.
- Weight gain/lack of exercise
- Money thriftiness
- Anti-social working hours
- Hygiene issues (personal cleanliness)
- In-Laws/extended family – too much/too little.
Also another point to ponder is by repressing the bigger issues in your relationship, the anger will inevitably come out sooner or later when you least expect it. So next time you find yourself erupting into a fit of rage at your other half about doing the washing up, stop and think what this could be really about?